A Different Take on Visibility and Expression
We’ve all heard the “you’re being selfish if you keep your gifts to yourself!” - I’ve said it, and heard it a million times myself. The concept of how important it is that we share our gifts, and serve others from the standpoint of someone else NEEDS to hear what we have to share is 100% important and real.
And… I felt inspired to share a different perspective today about visibility.
Have you heard that we all want to be seen, heard and understood?
Well, think about it - you’ll find it’s true. We all want to feel a part of something - connected, and in order for that to happen we have to feel like others really see us, hear us and understand us.
This happens to those who hear your message: your Soul Mate Clients and community will feel seen, heard and understood when you share yourself, your stories, your message.
But, the other perspective I want to share today in attempts to help pull you out of the slump of hiding, is this.
The only way YOU can feel seen, heard and understood is by:
Being yourself. Not who you think you should be, or who you think others want you to be, or a toned version of yourself. But the most fully expressed version of you.
Sharing yourself. Letting yourself be seen by your people.
No one is going to be able to see you, hear you or understand you if you don’t put yourself out there!
Oddly enough, for most of the women I work with, one of their secret fears is that if they DO put themselves out there that they won’t be seen, heard and understood, and so… they haven’t put themselves out there… which, you guessed it, means that they STILL aren’t seen, heard and understood.
Of course, there’s the other end of it, the fear that others will misunderstand, judge and not ACCEPT you for who you are. That no matter how much you show up and put yourself out there, that still won’t get you what you want.
I won’t try and tell you this isn’t a valid fear, because it is. Others WON’T accept you, hear you, understand you, and really see you on this journey of yours. It’s true. Some people will straight up not like you, judge you, even say nasty things about you behind your back when you really put yourself out there.
We still have centuries of our ancestors DNA in our cells, and they experienced LIFE OR DEATH situations based on how they did or didn’t show up. And, it’s possible you have even had those traumatizing kind of events (big or small) growing up.
So, it’s natural that your body has a physical reaction when you think about being visible. It and your ego are trying to protect you. Thanks to them for trying to keep you extra comfortable and safe.
The more you get real with the fears you have that are holding you back from being visible, instead of pushing them down or trying to be positive, the more you can face them and make a plan to move forward despite them.
Yes, some people aren’t going to like you. What are you going to do about it?
Hide at home, not share or express yourself, hold your message and your gifts inside?
I don’t know about you but just the thought of that makes me feel tight, trapped, constricted.
THIS is what leads to dissatisfaction, to feeling stuck, stagnant & unfulfilled. It’s also what leads to a sad bank account, and disappointment that you aren’t attracting clients to share your work with.
I imagine if you let yourself really feel it, and are honest with yourself, it’s actually MORE uncomfortable to NOT be visible, to not be seen, and to keep this expression that wants to flow from you trapped inside, than it is to let it all out and to let others see you, hear you, understand you as you be yourself in the world.
And, if that’s not the case yet, that’s okay too. Be honest about that, and give yourself permission to let that shift, gently and easily with time, as you take baby steps toward a fuller, more visible expression.
